Infidelity: From Denial to Acceptance

Monday 12 February 2018, 1:53PM
By Julia Hartley


Signs of infidelity, how small they may be, can crumble trust in a relationship. Eventually, that hard-earned trust built by years of relationship is lost and isn’t likely to be regained.

In a 2017 article published by the NZ Herald, the peak age for adultery in New Zealand is between 40 to 45 years old for women and 55 to 65 years old for men. Despite the risks that infidelity poses to the family and livelihood, a quarter of married men and women have been reported to cheat on their partners.

One report reveals that spouses who came to authorities with evidence of their partners cheating on them are rarely wrong about their hunches.

In most cases, spouses are in denial of their partner's infidelity even though several signs point to the fact. Feelings of confusion and pain may take over, sometimes resulting in a feeling of helplessness, an idea that there is no way out. However, as the old adage goes, 'The truth shall set you free.'

Accepting the truth and the situation is the first step to regaining power and taking control of the matter. It will also allow the victim to take practical steps on the issue.

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